Divorced.It was a shock to me, but now after a few days to stew, I believe it's probably better. And I think I'm on the better way to getting back to being my happy self. He wasn't happy. I have no idea why not, I did everything I could possibly do to make him happy so I don't think I had close to any fault in the matter. I feel good about it right now and I feel like in a few months I'll be in a better place than I was when I was with him. Don't get me wrong. I was devastated when he told me he didn't think we should be married anymore. I was surprised and angry and heart broken and wanted to throw up and I wanted to kill something. All I could think was, "What did I do?". But I did nothing to break us up. It was hard when we first moved in together, I had a hard time adjusting, but after all that I was loyal to him and loved him as much as any woman could. I gave up a lot to be with him and in many ways I get to take my life back now.
In reality, there was no way I could tell what he wanted. I mean yeah, I know that he wanted to get a dog and that new Xbox game or a trampoline. But that is all material shit. That stuff can be thrown away and replaced. It is not materials that make people happy, but he doesn't get that. I was trying to get him to grow up and responsible for his actions but he did not want to listen and now he's going to find out that things can be much more difficult than he can imagine. Food doesn't automatically appear in your refrigerator when you're hungry, the toilet doesn't clean it self and when you wear your last pair of underpants, that's the LAST pair. In all fairness, I probably did too much for him. That asshole.
Even now I have to harass him to get the paper work done. Or started.
I'm just ready to forget him forever. I know I deserve better than what he gave me.
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I know it's hard, but I also know that you're gonna be ok, you're a strong girl.
Wow, I know how it is when you try to understand the person you're sharing your life with and he just doesn't seem to open up... sometimes you even feel you don't know him at all. And the "why can't you just grow up already??" part... well, I know exactly what you're talking about. I might not be the most mature person out there, but at least I try to think a bit about the future. Anyway, I'm ranting here and nobody cares.
I just want you to know that here's somebody who wants to see you happy, even though she never meet you and lives very far from you.
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What's unfortunate is that I thought, and was hoping you are happy... or were happy in that tense.
My little sister just had her husband abuse her, and then abandon her, and move to another state on a whim and cheat on her in the course of less than a week or two.
It makes it worse that he took everything positive in her life and absolutely tore it apart.
Part of that being that she is seven months pregnant.
So I cannot say I know what you are going through, because I don't but my sadness at finding out someone I admired and was just wishing the best for is actually heartbroken and getting divorced was not the sort of, "How is she doing?" That I really wanted to end up falling into.
I know we have not even spoke in a long time, but my memories of you are nothing but fond, and if you need to talk to someone, this nerd is always around.
I hope for better things for you, I'm really sorry.
You do deserve better, or the best.
Yeah it was a shock to me too. For so long I thought we were happy and what was really going on is that he's just a good actor. You're right, at times it was like i didn't even know him.
But I'm glad I have the love of so many people, I know that he doesn't have the good friends that I do!
I think that soon, I will be happy. The more and more i think about my life without him the better I feel. I have so many opportunities that I can now follow now that I'm not with him. Don't worry about me, doll. I'm going to be alright!
You don't need to be too worried about me. Already I'm feeling like my normal, happy self. I feel relieved to know that I'm getting a portion of my life back that I had previously left behind when I married him. I get to go back to school, I get to work full time on my art, and on my own happiness.
But one thing that has really helped me so far is the love of my friends, like you. It has been the best thing I could ask for.
I've really missed you so hopefully we can talk more or something to that extent.
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